In this three-part topic, I will be talking about how to create a better perception of yourself because self perception has been where so many people are challenged.
A couple of years ago, I watched a documentary on specific specie of monkeys, and what I saw stunned me. Mere looking at this particular specie, you wouldn’t be able to tell the differences between them until you start observing their various characters. In observation, I noticed that there was class discrimination, superiority and inferiority amongst them – a specific type of the specie felt they were better than the other type, and so exhibited strength over the perceived inferior type. The perceived inferior accepted the perception, saw themselves to be inferior and also acted inferior. On one occasion, one of the so called low class specie was eating, and a baby high class specie came to him to demand that he gives him the food. Although, he hesitated, but from his body language, you could see his low self-esteem and his admission of being a lesser being – and when he didn’t yield in releasing the food to the baby superior monkey, the baby kept slapping him and using his fingers to force the food out of his mouth. Ordinarily, in terms of physical strength, he could, with one hand, push and beat the baby monkey, but his low perception of himself wouldn’t let him, so he capitulated. Those who feel less in their own eyes always capitulate to those they perceive to be better. The way you see yourself, the way you perceive yourself, is the exact way you value yourself.
Hearing that someone made a First Class, instantly gives you a perception that that person is more intelligent than you, but you may be obviously wrong. Hearing that someone drives a Lamborghini, and you drive a second hand Toyota gives you the impression that the person has more money than you, but you may be wrong. Hearing that someone lives in a particular part of town makes you conclude that the person is more comfortable than you, but you may also be wrong. Many times, we demean ourselves because of what we know the other person to be. And when we do, we hand over to the other person, out of cowardice, what rightfully belongs to us. We’ve lost so much to opposing forces, and handed our powers over to the wrong people because we felt we weren’t good enough to take charge of our own destinies and lives.
So, as you look into that mirror, see the real you – the strong you, and the enviable you. If you keep seeing inadequate, you will be inadequate. If you keep seeing inefficient, you will be inefficient. You only become able when you see your abilities. Change your self-perception for good, and let it begin NOW!
People with wrong self-perceptions determine their future based on the circumstances of today. Because of this, some people commit suicide because they feel that their situations are irredeemable. The truth is that where you can’t see, you can’t enter. Where your inner vision takes you is where you go. If it takes you round your village, you become a village champion. If it takes you round your country, you become a national champion, but if it takes you round the world, you become a global champion. You don’t need to win an international laurel to become a global champion; all you need is to be on the global stage, win or lose. Many athletes may have won nothing in Olympic Games, but because their visions have taken them to global platforms, they are champions. After all, there are many athletes that couldn’t make it beyond their localities.
The way we see ourselves matters a lot. We must endeavor to change our images by painting better pictures of ourselves within ourselves. Without that, we will be inundated by self-limiting beliefs, which will in turn, have a devastating consequence on our outputs in life, career, business, profession, education, relationship, and much more.
Sometimes, what controls our self perception is the way other people see us. Who are these other people? That is a big question! These other people could be anyone – race, culture, or group that have certain perceptions about you, your race, social grading, or otherwise. I have a perception about certain people, and certain people have perceptions about me, my race, or status. The way they see me is the way they assess me, and the way they assess me determines the way they value me.
Perception is a conspicuous picture and formidable belief that hold strongly to the minds and souls of people. It takes a great force to loosen the grip of the way people see other people, their ethnicities, and social classes.
In spite of the way other people see you, the way you see yourself matters a lot. Unfortunately, some people have allowed other people’s perceptions of them to determine their scope in life. When they allow such perceptions, they unconsciously and naturally act or react in line with it. So, those who placed them in that category are justified by their lies. Never allow another man’s vague vision determine your own vision. Have a good image of yourself. Ponder on that image until it becomes real!
To wrap up the first part of this topic, let me highlight some of the points mentioned:
- The way you see yourself, the way you perceive yourself, is the exact way you value yourself.
- People with wrong self-perceptions determine their future based on the circumstances of today.
- Perception is a conspicuous picture and formidable belief that hold strongly to the minds and souls of people.
- Never allow another man’s vague vision determine your own vision. Have a good image of yourself. Ponder on that image until it becomes real!
REMEMBER, SUCCESS IS A POSSIBILITY IF YOU GIVE ALL HEART TO IT!
We must endeavor to change our images by painting better pictures of ourselves within ourselves.